What's A Bystander

What about the kids who stand by and watch someone being a bully towards another kid? Is that okay? Are they doing the right thing? I have questions! That doesn't seem right to me?

That's a really important question. The kids who stand by and watch—often called bystanders—have more power than they realize. Even though they aren't the ones bullying, their actions (or inaction) can either help stop the bullying or make it worse.

​What Does God Say About Standing By?

​God Calls Us to Stand Up for Others​​

If you see someone being bullied, don't just ignore it. God wants us to defend and protect those who are hurting.

"Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves; ensure justice for those being crushed." — Proverbs 31:8

Ignoring the Problem is the Same as Participating

"So whoever knows the right thing to do and fails to do it, for him it is sin." — James 4:17
Watching and doing nothing can make the bullied person feel even more alone. Silence can make the bully feel stronger.

Jesus Stood Up for the Hurting

Throughout the Bible, Jesus always stood with those who were mistreated. He defended the weak, loved the outcasts, and showed kindness to the rejected. If we follow Him, we should do the same.

So what Can a Bystander Do to help when someone is being bullied?
Don't Encourage the Bully

Laughing, watching, or just standing there can make the bully feel more powerful. Instead, refuse to give them attention.

Support the Victim
Even if you're afraid to speak up at the moment, you can check on the person afterward. A simple "Are you okay?" or "I saw what happened, and I'm here for you" can mean a lot.

Tell an Adult
If the bullying is serious or keeps happening, report it. It's not snitching—it's doing the right thing.

Stand Up When It's Safe
If you feel safe, you can say something like, "That's not cool," or "Leave them alone." Bullies often stop when they see people aren't impressed by them.

Be a Friend
Sometimes, bullied kids feel completely alone. Inviting them to sit with you at lunch, walk in the hall, or talk to them can make a huge difference.

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Final Thought
Being a bystander is a choice. You can choose to ignore the problem or step in and help. God calls us to stand up for others, show kindness, and do what is right—even when it's hard.

If you're in a situation like this, do you want help figuring out what to say or do?