“From Hurting Others to Making Things Right”

That’s a great question. Bullies are often hurting, too, even if they don’t show it. While bullying is wrong, God wants to help them just as much as He wants to help the person being bullied. Here’s how a bully can change and find healing:

​1. Admit the Problem and Take Responsibility
​Bible Verse: “Whoever conceals their sins does not prosper, but the one who confesses and renounces them finds mercy.” — Proverbs 28:13
The first step to change is realizing that bullying is harmful and admitting it’s wrong. If someone is a bully, they must take responsibility for their actions.

​2. Understand the Root of the Behavior
Many bullies act out because they feel insecure, hurt, or powerless in other areas of their life. They might be dealing with problems at home, struggling with self-worth, or trying to fit in.
Talking to a trusted adult—like a school counselor, teacher, pastor, or parent—can help them figure out why they act this way.

​3. Ask God for a Change of Heart

Bible Verse: “I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you.” — Ezekiel 36:26
God can transform anyone. A bully can ask God for help to change their heart and treat others with kindness instead of cruelty.

​4. Apologize and Make Things Right

Bible Verse: “So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you.” — Matthew 7:12
If someone has bullied others, a sincere apology is a big step toward healing. It won’t undo the past, but it shows maturity and a willingness to change.

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5. Find Better Ways to Deal with Emotions

Instead of lashing out at others, bullies can learn healthier ways to deal with anger, frustration, or sadness—like talking to someone, journaling, exercising, or praying.

​6. Surround Themselves with Positive Influences

Bible Verse: “Do not be misled: ‘Bad company corrupts good character.’” — 1 Corinthians 15:33
Suppose a bully is surrounded by friends who encourage bad behavior. In that case, they should consider making new friends who lift them up instead of dragging them down.

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7. Accept God’s Love and Forgiveness

Bible Verse: “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” — 1 John 1:9
God forgives those who truly want to change. No one is too far gone for His grace. A bully can start fresh and become someone who spreads kindness instead of pain.

Final Thought

Bullies can change, but they need to recognize the harm, seek help, and ask God for transformation. If you know someone who is a bully, praying for them and encouraging them to get help might be the first step in their journey to becoming a better person.

Do you know a bully who wants to change, or are you asking for another reason?